4 things on our 4th anniversary
Today is a very special day in our house, today we are celebrating our 4th wedding anniversary! As crazy as this sounds to me, I am so grateful to have found my soul mate in my best friend. I know that sounds so cheesy, but in all truth, Chris and I started our relationship out by being the best of friends then moved into us falling in love after a couple of years of being inseparable and a couple years after being in love, he proposed and then a few years after that we got hitched! And I have to admit, marrying him was the best decision I've ever made. I'm so lucky I can still be my witty self without worrying about scaring him off (haha) and he can tell me all the dad-jokes that come to his mind. Which leads me to my post, the 4 things that I've learned are most important to keep a healthy relationship!
1. Never go to bed angry! Yes, everyone tells you this before you get married, but communication is key. Without communication, you have nothing. If you don't feel comfortable talking to your partner about anything and everything, then you might be in a little trouble. Obvisouly, we keep some things to our selves; like personal issues that don't concern the other person. But aside from that, we are always open about whats on our mind and we ALWAYS resolve any issues or conflicts before we go to bed. That way we don't wake up with lingering feelings from the night before and can start a new day, fresh!
2. Make sure to save time for one another! This may sound like a cliche, but it's true. Life gets so busy and we forget to save time for each other, thats why its so important to schedule a weekly time that works for you both. Last year we went through a time period where we didn't have a single moment to share with one another doing nothing but being together and I noticed we were a bit snippy with each-other. After that, I told him no matter what is going on in our lives, we have to preserve a little time at the end of the week to sit down and just be together. And ever since we decided to schedule "our time together" we are more in-synced with each-other.
3. Have your own hobbies without your S/O! This is kind of an ironic one to place after the last message, but its important to stay true to yourself! Make sure you keep up on some hobbies or activities that you personally like to do by yourself or with friends. Chris is always coming up with new hobbies (his hobby is hobbies haha) and I love seeing him get all excited and tell me about his new endeavor. As great as it is for him, I know that I don't have to become head-over-heels about the hobby because it's his thing to do and something we can talk about. Versus me, I love fashion, anything that has to do with fashion, so I keep up with my hobby while he does his and at the end of the day we have something new and exciting to share with one another. Don't get me wrong, when he finds a new hobby he loves that sounds interesting to me, I will join him and vise-versa. It's perfectly normal to have separate likes and dislikes.
4. Laugh at each other! Yes, you read that right! When the other person does something out of character, it shouldn't be problem if you laugh at their mistake! For example, I am the clumpiest person and sometimes I take myself way too serisouly so I'll get frustrated if I mess up versus laughing at the situation. Chris on the other hand, if he witnesses what I just did he will flat out laugh at me! Which in the end makes me relieve some stress and laugh the situation off! In my opinion if I didn't have him there to laugh at me or poke fun at my mistakes, I would become a ball of seriousness and would miss out on so many goofy things in life! So go ahead, laugh at your partner and get them going!
Sharing some of our photos through the years. they are not of the best quality, but too fun not to share. I can't believe how young we look in some of these photos, especially our engagement photo! Haha
Hope you all are having a blissful week!